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AUTHOR: Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli (editor)
PUBLISHER: Lexington Books
LANGUAGE: English
DATE: 2016
PAGES: 522
ISBN: 0739134590

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Women in Relationships with Bisexual Men: Bi Men By Women

edited by Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli

Framed by a comprehensive review of international research, literature, and film, this book is an intimate journey into the experiences and insights of 79 Australian women in relationships with bisexual men. It takes us into the daily lives, sexual intimacies, and families of MOREs (mixed-orientation relationships) that span the gamut from extremely oppressive experiences with bi-misogynist men to extremely liberating with bi-profeminist men. Aged 19 to 65, the women are in monogamous, open, and polyamorous relationships with bisexual-identifying and/or bisexual-behaving men. The women themselves are bisexual, lesbian, heterosexual, while others refuse to categorize their own sexualities. The book addresses the discovery or disclosure of the man’s bisexuality, how the relationships work and where they flounder, how the partners negotiate and establish ‘new rules’ and boundaries to maintain their relationship, and the impact of class, rural/urban setting, ethnicity, indigeneity, race, religion, and education on these relationships.

But this book isn’t only about MOREs. The research, revelations and reflections in this book tell us much about current and shifting global constructions and understandings of intimate relationships, sexual desires and love, and the socio-cultural representations and labeling of genders and sexualities.

The Bi Pan Library’s copy of Women in Relationships with Bisexual Men was donated by Cedric Maurice on behalf of H. “Herukhuti” Sharif Williams, PhD., M.Ed., of the Center for Culture, Sexuality & Spirituality.

TABLE OF CONTENTS
  • Acknowledgements
  • PART I: INTRODUCTION
    • Chapter 1: “Outside Belonging”: An Introduction to the Women, their Men, and the Research
    • Chapter 2: “Border Women and Their Border Men”: Some Theories, Definitions, and Debates Framing the Research
    • Chapter 3: “You know, the old Kinsey scale”: Women Talk about their Partners’ Bisexualities
    • Chapter 4: “I Have a Sexuality Too”: Women Discussing their Own Sexualities
  • PART II: THE JOURNEYS
    • Chapter 5: “Starting Out Knowing”: Negotiatiing the Begtinning of the Relationship
    • Chapter 6: “Changing Course Midstream”: From Closet to Confrontation
    • Chapter 7: “We’ve Arrived Where We Started and Know the Place for the First Time”: Women Reflecting on ‘Staying the Course’ or ‘Splitting Up’
  • PART III: MAPPING THE LANDSCAPE
    • Chapter 8: “New Rules, No Rules, Old Rules or Our Rules”: Women Designing MOREs with their Partners
    • Chapter 9: “The Problem sIs That He’s a Man, Not That He’s Bisexual”: Women Discussion Masculinity, Misogyny, Privilege, and Power
    • Chapter 10: “What Do We Tell the Kids?”: Women Talk about BIsexual Fathers
    • Chapter 11: “Spreading Disease with the Greatest of Ease”: Negotiating Sexual Health Issues
  • PART IV: BORDER DWELLING AS OUTSIDERS BELONGING
    • Chapter 12: “Minute by Minute Maneuvering”: Navigating the Heteroworld
    • Chapter 13: “Ewww, Girl Germs”: Women’s Experiences and Perceptions of Homonormativity
    • Chapter 14: “The Priest Told Him to Marry Me and He’d Go Straight”: Bordering Religion and Spirituality in MOREs
    • Chapter 15: “It’s a Matter of Family Honor and Shame”: Negotiating Ethnic and Racial Identities and Community Codes
    • Chapter 16: “When Your Relationship Isn’t Recognized by Relationships Services”: Misrepresentations and Erasures in Health Services
  • PART V: NOT JUST BELONGING BUT BLOOMING IN THE BORDERLANDS
    • Chapter 17: “A Door Hasn’t Been Opened”: Women’s Final Words for Future WOmen
  • References
  • Index
  • About the Author
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